This is kind of fun! I found this in reading my favorite blog this morning and discovered that I write like Stephen King. I’m not sure what to think of that, but found it kind of fun. If you’d like to find out who you write like, click here…
Friday, July 16, 2010
Now here is a great post from my most favorite blog!
Back in May, my wife and I attended an incredibly challenging and inspiring Paul David Tripp conference on marriage, entitled What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage (there is a excellent Crossway book of the same name). I learned so much about parenting.
Did I say parenting? Yes; I took away manifold parenting insights from this marriage conference. That’s not to say that I didn’t imbibe any marriage insights; I certainly did. I was chastened up and down regarding all the ways I superimpose my failings onto my wife. I was humbled to learn that the secret to our long and successful marriage is that we share a deep and abiding love for me (HT Jess MacCallum for that phrase).
It’s no secret that the Bible speaks to parenting, but it may be a surprise to you just how often it does so indirectly. At his conference, Tripp stated, “The Bible isn’t arranged by topic. If you go only to the “marriage” passages, you miss most of what the Bible says about marriage.” In his book, he elaborates in a section entitled “Using the Bible Biblically”:
Part of the problem is the way we use Scripture. We mistakenly treat the Bible as if it is arranged by topic - you know, the world’s best compendium of human problems and divine solutions. So when we’re thinking about marriage, we run to all the marriage passages. But the Bible isn’t an encyclopedia; it is a story, the great origin-to-destiny story of redemption. In fact, it is more than a story. It is a theologically annotated story. It is a story with God’s notes. This means that we cannot understand what the Bible has to say about marriage by looking at only the marriage passages, because there is a vast amount of biblical information about marriage not found in the marriage passages.
In fact, we could argue that to the degree that every portion of the Bible tells us things about God, about ourselves, about life in this present world, and about the nature of the human struggle and the divine solution, to that degree every passage in the Bible is a marriage passage. Every passage imparts to us insight that is vital for a proper understanding of the passages that directly address marriage, and every passage tells us what we should expect as we deal with the comprehensive relationship of marriage.
Ditto with parenting. Perhaps more so with parenting, since each addition of another person to your family multiples the number of social interactions occurring within the family grouping. Tensions, conflicts, and differences are therefore more prevalent than if it were just the two of you coasting blissfully (as if) through married life. If you are anything like my wife and I, you often feel that Sin Personified is having a heyday within your God-given family unit. Where’s the grace?
Grace in all its beauty is found where sin is displayed in all its ugliness, when - and only when - the gospel is being momentarily and actively applied to parenting and the Bible is being used biblically. To lift yet another example from Tripp: if my children wake in the wee hours, start to fight, and I respond by stomping down the hall toward their bedroom with the mantra “inconvenience, inconvenience, inconvenience” running through my head, I am reacting sinfully to their sin. Of course, it’s a fact of life that sinners tend to respond sinfully to being sinned against. “But,” as the Apostle John reminds us in his first epistle, “if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous” (1 John 2:1) That doesn’t only go for the one who is sinning, but for the one faced with addressing the sin. As C.J. Mahaney often says, there is never a moment in which I don’t need a Mediator. Later John goes on to say, “whoever says he abides in him ought to walk in the same way in which he walked” (I John 2:5). As I am traversing the corridor in the wee hours, abiding in the grace of God means my heart is softening toward my children with every step and I am choosing to view the situation as an “opportunity, opportunity, opportunity” to extend the grace of God through kindness and correction. For ultimately even the corridors and bedrooms of my own house are not my own - they are part of the kingdom of God. And in that kingdom, grace flows in all directions at all times.
To the degree that you use the Bible biblically in your parenting, the grace of the gospel of Christ will be evident to your children, operating as a “trysting place,” in Martin Luther’s words, of personal encounter between your children and your God.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
Today my Grandpa arrived for a short visit. I believe his primary motivation in wanting to come amidst this nasty heat was to meet his newest great granddaughter, Andee. Why else would someone choose to visit Phoenix in all its summer nastiness???
Charlee warmed up to Grampa Bert immediately this time…how nice! I believe the pink lizard he brought with him helped the warming up process…check out the action shot below!
Ever wondered how we came up with the name Andee? Well, there was this amazing woman named Annette who I was privileged to have as my Grandma, who my mom was blessed to have as her mom and who my Grandpa called his wife. That remarkable woman went to live with Jesus just over 11 years ago and from that time I knew that if I had a little girl I would want to name her Andee. You see, everyone knew my Grandma as Ande and those that knew her were blessed and would testify to the amazing woman she was. She lost her battle to lung cancer, but she left a legacy in our family and now my little girl gets to carry a part of her into this generation. The story gets better though because my Grandpa brought with him a special pendant that I get to give to my Andee when she’s a bit older. This is a pendant that he bought for his Ande when they were in Egypt together and it spells Ande in hieroglyphics. I am so beyond grateful to have this little piece of my Grandma to carry on and share with my Andee. Thank you, Grandpa, for such an amazing gift!
Sunday, July 11, 2010
I stole this from Adam’s Facebook status today because it was just too stinkin’ cute not to record…
Came home from church today and Charlee said, "Yember (remember), Jesus wuvs you daddy...have happy heart.” She then proceeded to let me know that Elmo loves me too. I can now rest easier knowing Elmo loves me. Thank you Charlee for making me smile!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
For several months now, Adam has been taking Charlee on daddy dates most weeks. Typically they go out on Saturday mornings and most often they go to McDonald’s (better known as Donald’s in our house). Charlee’s face lights up when we talk about daddy dates and she informs me regularly throughout the week as she pushes her stroller through the house that she is going to get “hash browns” and “sbicuits” (more commonly known as “biscuits” to the majority of us). She will say, “Be right back,” as she strolls through the house on her way to Donald’s.
It brings me such joy to know that Adam loves to spend time with Charlee, not because he feels that he should, but because he genuinely enjoys her company. I love listening to Mark Driscoll and one of the things I’ve often heard him say is that “you (you being Daddy) should be the first man your daughter ever dates.” I love knowing that at 2 years old Charlee is already “dating” her daddy. My sincere prayer is that as she grows and becomes older she would hold her Daddy Dates as a standard to the way she deserves to be treated by any boy that comes into her life as the precious daughter of the Most High King that she is!
Here are Daddy and daughter headed out the door this morning to Donald’s. Can you see the joy on this little girl’s face…and on her Daddy’s too for that matter? =)
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Charlee has a very special relationship with her friend Taylor. Taylor is the only one who can help Charlee without causing Charlee to put up a fight (most of the time anyway!). =)
One of our newest “traditions” since we’re not serving in Childrens Ministries for the summer is to go to the Commons after church and let Charlee run around in the grass while Andee eats. Today was extra special because we were joined by Gramma, Grampa, Andy and Taylor. And, it was the Fourth of July so everyone’s extra festive!
Chillin’ with Gramma…